Now, Pessin has written a novel about the toxic atmosphere on campuses today named Nevergreen, an obvious spoof on Evergreen College. Like Evergreen, Nevergreen is in the Pacific Northwest, but it is on an island which used to house an insane asylum.
Sunday, August 01, 2021
- Sunday, August 01, 2021
- Elder of Ziyon
- book review
Now, Pessin has written a novel about the toxic atmosphere on campuses today named Nevergreen, an obvious spoof on Evergreen College. Like Evergreen, Nevergreen is in the Pacific Northwest, but it is on an island which used to house an insane asylum.
Sunday, July 04, 2021
- Sunday, July 04, 2021
- Elder of Ziyon
- book review
Wednesday, April 21, 2021
- Wednesday, April 21, 2021
- Varda Meyers Epstein (Judean Rose)
- book review, Judean Rose, Terrorism, Varda
Reaching for
Comfort: What I Saw, What I Learned, & How I Blew it Training as a Pastoral
Counselor, is the third of three books by Sherri Mandell on dealing
with the loss of her son Koby Mandell, to terror. But know that Mandell is a
writer by profession, and not by circumstance. She writes because that’s her
gift: it’s what she does. The fact that she can not only write but has a
heartbreaking story to tell, makes it all the more poignant to read her
story, and hear her “voice.”
It’s difficult—even gut-wrenching—to read these works, but some
would say, necessary. This is a human rights issue. Jews, like all other people, should
have the right to live productive lives in peace, in particular in their
indigenous territory. Jewish children, like all other children, should have the
right to grow up unmolested by terror, no matter where they live.
In this new book, in which Mandell speaks of her experiences
training as a pastoral counselor, we hear the voice of a mother who longs for
comfort, who is seeking something to give her relief or at least a small
respite from the feelings she goes to bed with at night, and wakes up to every
morning. It is obvious to all who witness this sort of pain, even from the
outside looking in: the pain of losing a child to terror never, ever leaves
you. This book helps us see what this might be like, God forbid, even if only
to the smallest degree (may we never need to understand it fully).
Mandell takes us along as she begins to visit hospitalized patients as part of her training. This takes place at a time when pastoral counseling is new to the scene of Israeli patient care. Many of the patients fail to understand the purpose of her visits and are reluctant to avail themselves of what she attempts to offer them. One understands that Mandell thought she'd be good at pastoral counseling by dint of her experiences as the mother of a terror victim. Her efforts at comforting patients and their families, on the other hand, tend not to have the desired effect.
Interspersed with Mandell's visits to patients (whom she describes as "fictional composites, drawn broadly from real stories") are her training sessions and meetings with Michael, her mentor and co-teacher of the pastoral counseling course. Michael leads the group through prayers and exercises, during which Mandell always seems to fall short in comparison with her classmates. Mandell's self-described inadequacies as a pastoral counselor are as puzzling to the reader as they are to Mandell. Her descriptions of her visits to patients, meanwhile, are compelling, and we know something they do not: that she is Sherri Mandell, mother of Koby Mandell, who was murdered in a brutal attack when he was only 13.
An Added Dimension
For this writer, there is an added dimension to this story of an effort to comfort others in the midst of grief. Having lived in Gush Etzion for a long time,
through both intifadas, I remember when Koby Mandell and Yosef Ishran
were murdered. There was a media blackout at first, but we understood that children had been murdered in Tekoa, a settlement in our
area. And of course, the Gush was a much smaller community in those days than
it is now, and everyone knew everyone in the Gush.
We wanted to know what had happened, so we began making calls to people we knew in Tekoa. We
wanted to be there for the parents, to mourn alongside them. We wanted to learn
from what happened in order to understand what measures we needed to take in our attempts to protect our own children
going forward. It took only two phone calls to learn the identity of the two
boys who had been murdered, and the terrible details of the attack. It was, in
fact, a child who told me—the child of a friend—what had happened and to whom.
It was Sherri and Seth Mandell’s story. It was Koby’s story,
and it was Yosef’s story. And yet, in a sense, it was everyone’s story, in that it
affected us all, as residents of the Gush, as Jews. The knowledge of what happened
turned me into a hyper-vigilant mother. I told the daycare workers that under
no circumstances were they allowed to let my children walk home alone, though
it was a very short walk from the daycare center to our caravan. And yet, years
later, reading Sherri Mandell’s books, you realize it’s not your story, but her
story, and hers alone to tell.
Our responsibility, it seems, is to read every word of her elegant prose.
Koby Mandell (H"YD) with his parents Seth and Sherri, at his bar mitzvah, the last birthday he lived to see. |
I spoke with Sherri to learn more about her new book:
Varda Epstein: Your
first book, “The Blessings of a Broken Heart,” was the story of what happened
to your son and the blessings you recognized in the face of tragedy. Your
second book, “The Road to Resilience: From Chaos to Celebration” was about how
to find a way forward after tragedy. This third book you’ve “birthed” is more
difficult to define. How would you summarize “Reaching for Comfort?”
Sherri Mandell: “Reaching for Comfort” is the story of a
year training to be a pastoral counselor, being taught how to be present in
the face of suffering.
Varda Epstein: When
did you first hear about the pastoral counseling course? What did you imagine
you would get out of your training?
Sherri Mandell: A friend told me about the course. I thought
that I would learn to be comfortable with prayer and become a more serene,
centered person. I thought that I would also confront death and illness and see
how people coped. I think my main goal was to find a lamed vavnik [one of the 36 righteous people in every generation
who wander among us in secret. V.E.] who would tell me the secret of suffering.
Of course, I also wanted to be able to have the therapeutic skills to lead the
foundation where we worked with so many bereaved children and families.
Varda Epstein: Your
book is about pastoral counseling for those with serious or terminal illness
and their families. You’ve lost family in the natural way, to age and illness,
and you’ve lost a child to terror. How are these experiences different and how
are they the same?
Sherri Mandell: Loss is a common denominator for all people,
because everybody dies. But there is a difference when somebody is murdered by
terrorists, because the family is left with a need to seek justice. Also trauma
leaves scars that the loss of a parent in old age does not.
Koby at his bar mitzvah with his father, Rabbi Seth Mandell |
Varda Epstein: What
would you like people to understand about what it is like to lose a child to
terror?
Sherri Mandell: That the pain never goes away.
Varda Epstein: In
“Reaching for Comfort” you offer a vivid description of your grief as a sort of
underworld: “Even though you have the ability to exit the underworld, you are
not sure you want to. In fact, you no longer no which world you belong in or
which world you prefer. The ordinary world is no longer hospitable in some
ways: it’s too light, too trivial. The underworld has the gravity, the shock,
the darkness, the weight of being you crave.”
Do you think your
children feel the same way? Have you tried to keep them out of this
“underworld?” Tried to give them normalcy? How do you find the balance between
giving them a normal childhood, and letting them grieve?
Sherri Mandell: I think that all children who experience
tragedy touch the underworld and are changed by the experience.
Koby, laughing with his younger siblings, long before the brutal murder that robbed them of their big brother. |
Varda Epstein: Arnold
Roth, father of Malki Roth, murdered in the Sbarro massacre, related that
people crossed the street to avoid him and his wife after the tragedy. Did you
experience anything like this? Do you sometimes feel like you’re wearing a
sign?
Sherri Mandell: No, I did not feel that at all. I think
because I live in a Yishuv
[settlement, V.E.], everybody was involved and everybody cared. I had a feeling
of being cocooned by my neighbors and also supported.
Varda Epstein: The
website for Koby Mandell Foundation
speaks of healing and rebuilding. Is it really possible to heal and rebuild
after losing a family member to a terror attack? How would you define healing
and rebuilding in this context?
Sherri Mandell: One must rebuild after a tragedy. I realized
that when you undergo a tragedy it’s like your vessel is broken. The way you
looked at the world, the way you thought, the things you did. They’re no longer
sufficient to keep you afloat. You need to build a new vessel somehow, you need
to recreate yourself in the light of what you have suffered.
Like most boys born in the U.S., Koby loved baseball. |
Varda Epstein:
Pastoral counseling may not have been the right path for you, but what is the
right path for us to take in order to comfort the family members of terror
victims? Is there anything we can say or do that can help?
Sherri Mandell: Pastoral counseling was the right path for me
at the time. I think that anytime anyone remembers Koby, it is a good feeling.
I think that others can try to be there at important times like the azkara [annual memorial service, V.E.],
for example. Or just leave a message that you’re thinking about the person and
you remember and you care. The best is when somebody does something to
memorialize Koby.
Varda Epstein: What
will you write about next?
Sherri Mandell: Good question. I’m working on a novel!
***
Sherri Mandell won the 2004 National Jewish Book Award for The Blessings of a Broken Heart. Her newest book, Reaching for Comfort, is available at the Ben Yehuda Press and on Amazon.
Monday, March 22, 2021
- Monday, March 22, 2021
- Elder of Ziyon
- book review
Wednesday, January 13, 2021
- Wednesday, January 13, 2021
- Varda Meyers Epstein (Judean Rose)
- book review, Judean Rose, Opinion, Varda
Galilee
Gold is the kind of book you can’t put down. I started reading the
book on a Friday night after supper, read late into the night, picked up where
I’d left off the next morning, and had read the entire book—cover to cover—by
11 AM, just in time to sit down for Sabbath lunch. Not bad for this first effort—a
novel that is part historical fiction, part romance—from author Susie Aziz Pam.
The story outlined in Galilee Gold takes place in the 18th
century and is based on the life of Daher el-Omar, a powerful figure of the
time. El-Omar was a self-proclaimed Bedouin king who encouraged Jewish
settlement in the Galilee. In Pam’s skillful hands, el-Omar’s tolerance for the
Jews leads to romance when el Omar falls hard for the niece of a Syrian Jewish
family under his protection.
The Jewish heroine of the book, Tamar,
is of course, beautiful, with a fiery nature and golden hair. It’s no wonder that
el-Omar is smitten, though I admit I was discomfited by the concept of a
Bedouin-Jewish romance—especially since this is fiction: it never actually happened.
That being the case, why imagine a
romance between a Jewish woman and a Bedouin king? Because it makes for darned
good reading, even if I didn’t like the concept in theory. And make no mistake:
I devoured this book and hope that Galilee
Gold is only the first of many books to come from the pen of Susie Aziz
Pam.
I spoke to Susie Pam to learn more:
Varda
Epstein: Can you tell us a bit about your upbringing, your family, and how and
when you came to make Aliyah?Susie Aziz Pam
Susie Pam: My family were kind of
nomads. Both my parents were Persian Jews, from the Mesh'adi community.
Mesh'adi Jews were known for keeping the mitzvoth inside their homes, while
practicing Islam on the outside—but that is the subject of my next book.
My father's family lived in the Bukharan
Quarter in Jerusalem, where their house stands to this day. My mother's family
lived in London. After seeking their fortune in London, New York, South Africa,
and New York again, my parents settled in Kew Gardens, Queens. We are a very
Zionistic family and all of my father's family remained in Israel. So a few
years after the Six Day War, in the wave of pro-Israel sentiment, my parents
moved to Jerusalem, giving me just enough time to finish high school in New
York.
1925 photo of the ancestral Aziz home in the Bukharan Quarter of Jerusalem |
Varda
Epstein: Can you talk about how you came to write this story? How did you come
to hear about Daher el-Omar? Why did this story beckon to you?
Susie Pam: We
first met Daher el-Omar when we visited the Yehiam
Fortress. The little I found out about el-Omar then, made him stand out
like a Disney character: he traded with pirates, he fought off the Ottomans, and
he crowned himself the King of the Galilee. But after I began to read up on
him, I discovered an amazing fact—el-Omar invited the Jewish communities from
Turkey and Syria to settle in the Holy Land. "Return and inherit the land
of your forefathers!"
Yehiam Fortress |
Inside Yehiam Fortress |
Varda
Epstein: Who was el-Omar? What was he like?
Susie Pam: Daher el-Omar was
the son of the local tax-collector in the Galilee. His vision of Moslems,
Christians, and Jews living together and prospering in the eighteenth century,
made him a very tolerant and pluralistic leader.
Varda
Epstein: Is there any evidence that el-Omar had a romance with a Jewish woman
or took a Jewish wife?
Susie Pam: Not to my knowledge. He had
many wives and many sons. I only deal with two of his wives in my novel. At the
very end of his life, when he was in his 80's, he had a young wife from Russia,
who was blond and blue eyed. Legend has it, that the Ottomans attacked Acco (Acre) and
he went back to save this wife, and he was killed. But I do not cover that part
of his life in my book.
Susie with her two daughters, this past summer. The author also has two sons. |
Varda
Epstein: How long did it take you to write Galilee Gold, your first novel?
Susie Pam: Well, when I first started
I had brown hair and now it’s gray! It took me a good many years—mainly because
I wrote most of the chapters in my writing group in Jerusalem, and we only met
once a week! Also, when I started writing, there was not a lot of available information
about that period—now there is a lot more.
The whole Pam family (see what I did there?) |
Varda
Epstein: Can you tell us about some of the research involved in writing this
work of historical fiction?
Susie Pam: Let's just say that over
the last few years, I sent a lot of $5 donations to Wikipedia. My husband is a tour
guide and he had a few books in which el-Omar is mentioned. I wrote about
herbalism during that period, so I had to read up on plants and their uses, and
which were available in the Middle East. My daughter studied herbalism, so I
was also able to ask her questions. When I reached a point where I had a lot of
questions, we went back up to the Galilee and I found a tour guide whose
specialty is Daher el-Omar.
We arranged to meet Sharif Sharif, a
heritage and conservation expert of Nazareth. He introduced us to Ziad Daher
Zaydany—an architect and artist who drew a portrait of el-Omar and is one of
his many descendants. Of course, I imagined him a little more handsome and
dashing in his younger days than he appears in the portrait.
Daher el-Omar portrait painted by Ziad Zaydany in 1990 |
Varda
Epstein: Without giving away too much in the way of spoilers, your fictional
Jewish heroine Tamar, is depicted as el-Omar’s captive. Do you think it likely
that if the story had been true, the Jewish community would have made an effort
to ransom and reclaim her? How important is the concept of ransoming a captive
in Jewish law?
Susie Pam: Traditionally, ransoming a
captive is a very important concept, even today—and I believe the Jews of
Aleppo would have made an effort to raise the funds needed to rescue Tamar, had
it been feasible.
Varda
Epstein: What’s next up for Susie Pam?
Susie Pam: I have another three books
in the works—at different stages of completion. Two are historical fiction, and
one is a story about an American girl who volunteers on a kibbutz—a traditional
kibbutz from the old days—and decides to stay.
***
Galilee
Gold is currently available at Booklocker and Amazon.
Sunday, January 10, 2021
- Sunday, January 10, 2021
- Elder of Ziyon
- book review
Not in Kansas Anymore: Academic Freedom in Palestinian Universities, by Cary Nelson, is a book-length research paper that exposes the true threats to academic freedom in Palestinian territories.
Unlike what BDS activists claim, the problem is not Israel.
For this book, Nelson has expanded one chapter of his masterful Israel Denial book into this comprehensive treatment of the subject of how Palestinian students have no academic freedom at all, at least when it comes to political speech about Israel and Palestinian leaders.
He describes how the (very) few Palestinian scholars who are moderate in wanting dialogue with Israel have been threatened and nearly killed, noting that pro-Hamas academics are also threatened in the West Bank.
Palestinians like to claim that the annual elections of student bodies at their universities are proxies for regular elections that haven’t been held for 17 years and show how important democratic processes are to them. In fact, these elections are accompanied with intimidation, threats, violence and even armed interference by the Palestinian Authority (and, by proxy, Hamas) to push their own student groups to lead the campus.
Palestinian academia is a fun-house mirror of American liberal campuses. If a professor says something that makes students uncomfortable, he or she can be threatened by students much more directly and physically than today’s cancel culture.
In Gaza, the idea of academic freedom is a sad joke. All students at Islamic University of Gaza must take one full year of Islamist indoctrination courses.
One amazing section of the book shows an IUG literature class dissecting a humorous children’s poem by British poet Roger McGough called The Cat’s Protection League about a feline protection racket. The students are prompted and encouraged to interpret the poem in the most outrageous antisemitic ways, such as assuming that the cats represent Jewish gangsters. Antisemitism pervades academia in Gaza, and no one can oppose that without facing real world consequences.
That is only the tip of the iceberg. West Bank universities compete as to which of them have had students kill the most Jews. Universities are the ideological homes of terrorism, and often the physical homes as well –weapons labs have been built in Gaza universities and one of them held kidnapped Israeli soldier Gilad Shalit for a time. Many terrorists during the second intifada came from West Bank universities, including Ahlam Tamimi who helped bomb the Sbarro pizza shop.
The universities also often praise terrorism. The most infamous case was the exhibit, complete with bloody body parts, of the same Sbarro attack at An Najah University: The same university more recently displayed mock-ups of a man stabbing a religious Jew and a bloody model of a car running over Jews.
Nelson does point out times that Israel interfered with campus curricula, but that all ended at the end of the first intifada. Palestinian government control and intimidation continues on campus today, to the point that students and professors are self-censoring to stay out of trouble. (He does talk about Israel’s relatively rare raids on campus since then, which are understandable when there is an imminent terror threat but often could be more effective by detaining students at home.)
Nelson also shows how other claims by BDS, that Israel blocks students from going abroad or foreign instructors to come to teach, are exaggerated – Israel does not have any more strict restrictions on those movements than most Western democracies.
Small details in the book are illuminating. For example, Nelson points out that while Israel is roundly castigated for administrative detention, the Palestinian Authority detains hundreds of people without charge as well, although they are not as forthcoming with the statistics as Israel is. (I follow Palestinian media closely and have never seen any mention of this.)
Another section has a footnote that mentions that Norman Finkelstein actually defended Hamas’ policy of murdering “collaborators” with Israel.
This is the sort of hypocrisy exposed in Not in Kansas Anymore. The boycotters’ pretense of caring about Palestinian academic freedom is clearly just an excuse to attack Israel as they ignore the far worse crimes that Palestinian students and professors are subject to every day from their own leaders and peers.
Wednesday, June 10, 2020
- Wednesday, June 10, 2020
- Varda Meyers Epstein (Judean Rose)
- book review, Judean Rose, Opinion, Varda
Varda Epstein: Tell us about the name of your book: “Dreams never Dreamed.” What are some of the dreams you never dreamed that came about? To what do you attribute these successes?
You can't hold a good man down. Yossi Samuels, at work. |
Varda Epstein: Can you tell us a bit about your family roots? Your wife’s?
Kalman Samuels' high school graduation photo, back when he was "Kerry." |
Varda Epstein: Your book is very interesting in that it’s a first person account, but your wife is a central figure in your story. You take her guidance, and somehow it always works out, better than you had expected. Malki seems to be equal parts intuition and wisdom. How does she know what she knows? How did you come to trust her? Can you give us an example of a counterintuitive directive from Malki that followed this successful formula?
A young Yossi Samuels, learning about the world. |
Yossi Samuels was a beautiful healthy baby. Until he received a tainted vaccine. |
Varda Epstein: How many families have you helped as a result of the organization you and Malki founded, Shalva?
Kalman Samuels with son Yossi Samuels |
Rabbi Kalman Samuels, today. |
The Shalva Center is stunning, and situated in the heart of Jerusalem. |
Varda Epstein: Everyone is in love with the Shalva band. How did they end up getting the gig to play for the president?
The very famous Shalva Band, which bears witness to the fact that dreams can be realized, even with disabilities. |
Yossi Samuels meets President Bush in 2006. |
Tuesday, April 21, 2020
- Tuesday, April 21, 2020
- Elder of Ziyon
- book review
The nearly 700 page book is not merely a history of targeted killings by Israel but really a history of Israel's legendary spy agencies, the Mossad, Aman and Shin Bet. While the story concentrates on assassinations, and is as complete on that topic as one can imagine, nothing happens in a vacuum - killings are done for a reason, whether it is to discourage future terrorism or to send a message to past terrorists that they will never be safe. (The hunt for the Munich terrorists is an example.)
The agencies' growing pains are documented as Israel learns how to do spycraft. From the early pre-state days through the covert (and sometimes overt) war against the terrorists who intruded into Israel in the 1950s, Israel's spy agencies grew in capabilities. They had to pivot to new methods and tools as the enemies and tactics changed.
The action never stops. Bergman writes that his original manuscript was twice as long; he managed to shorten each episode to a couple of pages without the stories losing their punch.
This drama is not only in the successes but also the failures - and there were a lot of failures, with the inevitable political fallout from the government. The Mossad and Shin Bet are not infallible by a long shot, and there have been botched operations, as well as seemingly unnecessary assassinations.
Especially striking at this time of a worldwide pandemic is that decisions are often made with incomplete information. Acting based on assumptions backed by facts is necessary and moral. The alternative, of doing nothing, can endanger more lives than the action can. Sometimes, the assassinations can help avoid war. These are difficult moral arguments and Bergman objectively looks at both sides.
Some of the mistakes were extraordinarily embarrassing. The botched attempt on Hamas leader Khaled Meshal's life was a major setback. The assassination of Hamas leader Mahmoud al-Mabhouh in Dubai was successful but was a diplomatic disaster as the agents used international passports. Yet when mistakes were made, the security services improved their methods and procedures to ensure that every mistake is made exactly once.
Bergman's reporting goes well into the 21st century, with details on the assassination of Iranian nuclear scientists. He also details the assassinations of Hezbollah mastermind Imad Mugniyeh and of Syrian general Muhammad Suleiman in 2008, both of whom worked closely with Iran and the with the more recently departed Qassam Soleimani.
My only quibble is that Bergman sometimes allows his personal opinions to override the facts. He blames the second intifada on Ariel Sharon's visit to the Temple Mount even as he knows the evidence that it was pre-planned and Sharon's visit was only an excuse. His antipathy towards Netanyahu also allows one-sided reporting, with the other side of the story buried in footnotes.
But those are minor problems. Rise and Kill First was praised by both pro- and anti-Israel critics because he does such a good job of showing the ambiguity of the policies and of working in the shadows, breaking the normal rules of war, to help save lives.
Sunday, April 12, 2020
- Sunday, April 12, 2020
- Elder of Ziyon
- book review
But they didn't offer the other half of the book, the one that opens from the left-to-right side. I didn't even realize that this haggada had such an extensive set of essays - nearly 190 pages, which is pretty much book-length itself.
I love Sacks' writings and his weekly divrei Torah. He has an astonishing ability to notice things that others have not. His essays on Passover truly shine.
Sack's fluency with a wide range of sources, whether they be ancient or modern, history or poetry, sacred or ordinary, allows him to come up with startling conclusions that strike you with the dual realizations that no one ever seems to have made these points before, and that they seem to be correct. Here is an enthusiastic celebration of the Torah and specifically the Exodus as not only a story but as a work of philosophy, history and morality that pre-dates all others, and that was far ahead of its time and that had unparalleled influence in modern Western civilization.
Just one stunning example. Up until after World War II, the concept that one is obligated to adhere to higher standards, and to disobey if necessary, ones own leaders was hardly considered mainstream. Only after the Holocaust was the defense of "just following orders" no longer considered valid. Everyone is expected to disobey commands, even at the risk of one's life, that violate the higher values of human rights - but that is a relatively new concept.
Or is it? More than three thousand years ago, two women named Shifra and Puah - who according to the literal text seem to have been Egyptian, not Jewish - refused to obey Pharaoh's direct orders to murder all Jewish males upon birth. To them, there was a moral imperative that outweighed the demands of a deity-king.
This was, Rabbi Sacks notes, the first known example of civil disobedience, and one that was thousands of years ahead of modern times and completely alien to all peoples before (Sacks argues that the example in the Greek tragedy of Antigone is in fact not based on a higher moral code but on family loyalty.)
That insight alone would be enough to make a book notable, but these essays are filled with them. Sacks' essay on antisemitism is as good a treatment of the topic as any and better than most. He shows how the Exodus story influenced the founding fathers of the US to build a completely new type of nation, based on a Biblical-style covenant and concepts of inalienable rights that were most definitely not self-evident in 1776, but that were first written in the Torah.
Other essays and insights are equally dazzling, from noticing that the first speech Moses gives to the people on the cusp of freedom is an exhortation to teach their children, to brilliantly pinpointing the exact timeframe of the rabbis' seder in Bnei Brak and the importance of the anecdote to Jewish history.
You do not have to wait until next Pesach to enjoy the insights from Rabbi Sacks.