To demand that Hamas abandon violence, change its charter, or recognize Israel is not the beginning, but should be the end results of a peace process that builds trust over a period of time.
Now, watch these from Palestinian Media Watch:
"We kidnap soldiers and kill Jews" - Hamas music VIDEO
"Killing Jews is worship that draws us close to Allah" - Hamas music VIDEO
This last one only calls for Israel to be destroyed. So it must be proof of Hamas' moderation.
Now do you understand that Hamas actions are all Israel's fault?