Wednesday, November 13, 2019
Genie Milgrom, 63, always felt uncomfortable
in the Roman Catholic milieu in which she was raised. She seemed to gravitate
to the Jewish kids, all the way back to summer camp, the year she was seven. As
time went on, she found she was thirsty to learn more about Judaism, and
finally, at 35, she converted with an orthodox Beit Din. Then, a series of events led Milgrom to the realization
that she was one more in a long line of crypto-Jews, and she had the documents
to prove it.
Here is the shortened form of her
story: Milgrom’s grandmother died on a Friday, and the funeral was held the
next day. That meant Genie, as an orthodox, Sabbath-observant Jew, could not
attend. Upset, she asked her mother why they couldn’t delay the funeral to the
following day, a Sunday, so that she might attend. Her mother explained that it
was family custom to bury relatives immediately, and that set the wheels in
Genie’s mind turning. It was not a Catholic, but a Jewish custom to bury
relatives as soon as possible.
Then, the day after the funeral,
Genie’s mother handed her a box that her grandmother had specified be delivered
upon her death. In the box were a Star of David earring and a hamsa pendant, the symbol of a hand used
by Sephardic Jews to ward off the evil eye. Genie thought of some of the odd
customs of her grandmother, like checking eggs for blood, or burning a bit of
the dough when she made bread or cake. A light went on and she knew the truth:
her grandmother must have been a secret Jew, what used to be called a Marrano and is today called a converso or crypto-Jew.
Genie began a search for her roots
that culminated in the discovery that her maternal grandmothers had all been
crypto-Jews going all the way back to the Inquisition: for a grand total of 15
documented, crypto-Jewish grandmothers. That’s when Genie decided to visit a
rabbi. She wanted to be declared Jewish from birth. After all, she’d always
felt Jewish. And now she knew it was because she was Jewish. Had been Jewish all along.
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| Genie's great great great grandmother was the great great grandmother to both her grandparents who were cousins |
The letter Genie received included
the phrase, “God works in mysterious ways.”
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| The cover of Genie's cookbook Recipes of My 15 Grandmothers is a compilation of photos of her mother, maternal grandmother, great grandmothers, and great great grandmothers |
Varda Epstein: You always felt you didn’t fit into the Roman Catholic
world in which you were raised. And you always gravitated to Jewish friends and
were thirsty to learn about their customs. Eventually, you converted only to
subsequently discover your genealogy of 15 Jewish grandmothers. I think I
understand, but can you tell me in your own words why was it so important for
you to be declared a Jew from birth?
Genie Milgrom: The reasons vary. Initially it was important
so that I could validate all the feelings I had as a child that didn’t make
sense. Then it was because I had such joy in being Jewish and I had not
converted my children: I wanted that they should also be part of my ancestry.
Finally, and still today, it was to prove that it can be done, so that all the bnei anusim* that are struggling to
return only with documents and no conversion, could know that it is totally
possible.
Varda Epstein: Was your desire to be declared Jewish difficult to
explain to Jews of other streams, who may not accept the concept of matrilineal
Jewish descent? I once met a converso
who resisted conversion, feeling that she was “Jewish enough.”
Genie Milgrom: Yes, I do get those
quizzical looks still today, but most people at the end of the day understand
that to make aliyah or be married in
Israel, given the religious climate there, it must be done this way. People in
tune to the politics about this in Israel understand this much more.
Varda Epstein: Okay, so I’m kind of fascinated with the whole thing of
you’re wanting to be declared Jewish from birth. How much of your intuition
about your Jewish background do you credit to your Sephardi heritage? Is
intuition more of a Sephardi characteristic, do you think? Did all the women in
your family have intuition?
Genie Milgrom: Yes, all the women
in my family are tuned in to each other. At least for sure my maternal grandmom,
mom, sister, me, and my daughter. We know what the other is thinking, we
understand intuitively what is going on with each other, we work on the same
types of projects at the same time without the other knowing. Scientists now say
there is genetic memory in our DNA. I believe this to be true, one-hundred
percent.
Varda Epstein: Your new book, Recipes
of My 15 Grandmothers, sounds like it is as much a history as a cookbook,
reflecting your crypto-Jewish heritage. Can you tell us about some of the
recipes that give a hint to a family that was hiding its Jewish heritage?
Genie Milgrom: The recipes, you
could tell, spanned many grandmothers. The papers were thinner and with pencil-markings,
others already with pen, and some newer ones from the 1900s, were typed. They
were all stained and I could just feel my grandmothers through the papers.
I have a fake pork chop recipe
made of bread and sugar and milk and we have histories that tell us that the
crypto-Jews would throw a real pork chop into the fire to make believe they
were eating pork!
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| Chuletas (imitation pork chops) |
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| Bollo Maimon (Maimon's Cake) |
Bollo Maimon
A light and fluffy
Bundt cake that is both kosher for Passover and parve.
Genie says: “My grandmother always told me this was a recipe
from Salamanca, a large city a bit south of Fermoselle, and an hour and a quarter drive. These are still all
Spanish recipes but I find it interesting that my grandmother made the distinction that
this particular recipe was NOT from Fermoselle.
“I find this to be an unusual recipe in that it can be used
for Passover because there is no flour. My grandmother also told me that it
could be eaten after any meal. I did not understand at the time but that means
that the recipe is parve and not
dairy, as the Jewish dietary laws do not allow milk to be eaten after a meat
meal.
“This may well have been one of the original Sephardic cakes.
The name of the famous Jewish Sage, Maimonides, was Rabbi Moshe Ben Maimon. Is there
a correlation? We will never know, but if there is no connection, then it is
truly an odd name for a cake!”
Ingredients:
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10 medium eggs
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1 cup cornstarch or potato starch
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2 teaspoons baking powder
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1 cup confectioners’ sugar, plus extra for
decoration
Method:
1. Separate
the eggs and beat the whites until they form peaks.
2. Mix
all the other ingredients well, including the egg yolks.
3. Fold
in the egg whites and place in a greased Bundt pan.
4. Bake
at 350°F for 30 to 40 minutes or until a knife inserted in the center comes out
clean.
5. Sprinkle
with powdered sugar on top.
Varda Epstein: How did your family members feel about your conversion?
Genie Milgrom: It was not simple. I can’t imagine a family that would embrace this change. yet as hard as the conversion was, I am certain it was harder when they learned everyone was Jewish from birth.
Genie Milgrom: It was not simple. I can’t imagine a family that would embrace this change. yet as hard as the conversion was, I am certain it was harder when they learned everyone was Jewish from birth.
Varda Epstein: How does it work to be a crypto-Jew? Is it only certain
customs that are handed down, or at some point, do the elders have a talk with
their descendants, explaining what’s what? Is it different for every family?
Genie Milgrom: It was different
for all families but what we know is that the children were usually told at bar/bat
mitzvah age. Customs that were strong for the family were passed down and
mostly the ones to do with cooking. While very few customs about praying were handed
down, holidays were observed but on different days to ward off suspicion.
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| Genie Milgrom accepts an award for her global work on the return of the bnei anusim or descendants of crypto-Jews at Young Israel of Kendall, in Miami. |
Genie Milgrom: This was a moment of knocking my breath out at every turn. I could feel the walls and the rocks and stones and I knew where to turn and I was walking and looking for streets that I just knew instinctively. It was eerie at best.
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| Genie Milgrom's first trip to Fermoselle, in background. |
Varda Epstein: Do you think your ancestors made the right decision to go into hiding? What would you have done, in their shoes?
Genie Milgrom: I cannot say,
honestly. I do not know why they stayed. I know many stayed because the elderly
could not travel, yet I think my family may have thought they would hide for a
little while and then maybe an attitude of “This too shall pass” set in. I
don’t know what I would do. It would depend on how old the family members were,
but knowing how little I like change, I may have chosen to stay and do what
they did.
Varda Epstein: Have your children come around to accepting your
conversion? Do they think of themselves as Jewish?
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| Aerial view of Fermoselle |
Genie Milgrom: My children always
accepted my conversion and subsequent knowledge that they are Jewish but they
are not like me in observance. They consider themselves Jewish by ancestry.
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| The Douro River is the natural boundary between Portugal and Spain. It is known as Duero in Spain, and Douro in Portugal |
Varda Epstein: What’s next for Genie Milgrom?
Genie Milgrom: I am working very
hard on gathering Inquisition files around the world digitized and published,
so others do not struggle as I have. I also will be publishing a Cuban kosher cookbook
and a children’s book with the child retelling the story of the Jews that went
into hiding.
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| Genie speaks to the EU Parliament about the bnei anusim. |
*Descendants of Portuguese and
Spanish Jews, forcibly converted centuries ago.
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